My boyfriend has a sex doll. I found out about it in a moment of confusion and shock. We were in his room, and I was looking for something in his drawer when it dawned on me—it was a sex doll! I couldn’t believe my eyes; I was so startled I couldn’t speak. I kind of just stood there frozen trying to process the situation.

Things started to come together, I remembered when he’d said he wanted to try something “new” in the bedroom. Now I know what he meant. He must have thought I was like-minded and so he didn’t bother to discuss it. My mind was racing in a million directions, I felt betrayed, but I managed to remain calm.

I weighed up the facts without jumping to conclusions. We’ve been dating for almost two years and it’s been nothing but the best. We both bring something different to the relationship and it’s been a really positive experience. We are both modern and open minded. Is that why he bought the doll?

I walked away confused and in shock. When we talked about it, he was apologetic and understanding. Now that the initial shock has worn off, I can appreciate what he was saying. I can understand why he thought I might be into the idea. However, I also know now that I’m not ready for it.

We had a long talk about it and I felt heard and sex dolls respected. At the end of the conversation, we both came to the conclusion that it was unimportant and that the idea could be shelved for dildos now. I’m grateful for his willingness to have a conversation and accept my opinion.

Overall, I accept the situation, but it did open my eyes to the fact that he’s into kinky sex. It’s definitely going to take some time to get comfortable with the idea! I’m not sure I’m up for it yet, but I’m at least willing to explore the possibility.

I don’t think I can ever forget about the fact that my boyfriend has a sex doll. It still feels strange. But, I’m confident in our relationship and his respect and understanding so that I don’t have to worry. I’m sure that with a lot of communication and open-mindedness we can figure something out that is best for both of us!