how to get over ego and use sex toys
It happened to me the other day; the voice in my head went on overload convincing me that I was not brave enough to try something new. You know, like trying out a sex toy. Yes, that kind of something new! I had all these expectations of what it was going to be like and it’s like the more I thought about it, the more I cut off the opportunity to enjoy something because I was listening to my inner critic. But then it hit me; I had to get over my ego in order to try something new!
So I took a deep breath, silenced my inner critic and decided to follow through with it. I took a step back, looked at the situation objectively and recognized that my ego was actually holding me back. It made too much sense not to stop standing in my own way and go for it. And besides, I had been wanting to try something new with my partner and I knew that it had potential to totally revamp our sex life, so why not?
At first, the thought of using a sex toy made me a bit apprehensive. Would it hurt or feel gross? Would it really enhance the experience?! Well, I decided to put aside my own thoughts and go with it. After all, it is a type of consensual exploration in which there’s no real risk. So I checked with my partner and we agreed that we wanted to experiment.
To sum it all up, I was able to get over my ego and give it a go. Yes, it was totally out of my comfort zone and yes, I had to take a leap of faith and trust the process. But in the end, it was totally worth it!
To reassure anyone that is in the same boat as I was before, the best advice I can give is to let go of expectations and to keep your mind open. When it comes to sex toys, there is no such thing as “the one-size-fits-all.” So don’t even attempt to get the first one that you see or the fanciest one on the shelf. Instead, take your time and explore. Dig deep into the research part. Utilize the power of the internet and sex toys find out what’s the best one for you.
Next, you need to start working on an open mindset. Take your time and really get to know the hardware — what does it do? Does it appeal to you? Try to get a feel of what it can do for you and for your partner. When you start to get an idea, then go ahead and purchase your sex toy. Make sure that you read the instructions, and that you know how to use it properly. Spend some time familiarizing yourself with the toy. This kind of preparation will help you feel more comfortable and will take away any uneasiness you may feel.
When it comes to communication, it is key for both of you to be able to express yourselves fully. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, make suggestions and take the lead. When it comes to sexual exploration, communication is essential in order to get the experience the both of you are looking for.
After you’ve finally got the sex toy, make sure you establish a few guidelines with your partner. Decide together what kind of boundaries should be respected and also set expectations for the experience. Once all this is done, you can now go ahead and try it out. And don’t forget to have fun too!
Once I was able to get over my ego and give it a try, I was pleasantly surprised. Of course it was a bit awkward and weird at first, but it did not take long for us to get used to it. We both enjoyed the experience and it made us even closer as a couple. Now I’m not saying that sex toys are for everyone, but it sure helped us add a bit of spice to our bedroom.
Another thing I came to realize was that sex toys can really help relieve stress and anxiety. Plus they totally enhanced our own pleasure! I’m now a believer; in opening up and taking risks — especially when it comes to something like sex toys — because that’s what makes an experience memorable and fun.
With that said, if you’re still a bit apprehensive, just remember there’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to use a sex toy. And don’t let your ego stand in the way of your own pleasure. So get over your ego and give it a go! You’ll be happy you did.
Exploring one’s own boundaries is just as important as exploring sex toys. I now understand more than ever that it’s ok to experiment and that it’s ok to set your own boundaries. Not to mention, there really is no such thing as too much pleasure! So tapping into one’s own sexuality can be quite the journey.
And it doesn’t have to involve a sex toy either. It can be as simple as touching oneself in a different way, exploring different fantasies or even talking with your partner about what turns you on the most. Erogenous zones, fantasies and fetishes are all forms of exploration when it comes to sex and pleasure. You can invite different toys, you can spank or you can even utilize rope bondage. The possibilities are endless.
But before you get into anything kinky, it is important that both partners are comfortable with it and that they trust each other. Make sure you take your time and talk. Talk about expectations and boundaries and discuss any kinky ideas you may have. Communication is key in the bedroom.
So, as you can see, taking risks can be scary but can also be a lot of fun. Especially when it comes to sex. And don’t forget, sex toys can work as a bridge to better communication and understanding between partners. But as I said before, it’s important to take your time and explore; don’t rush it. Have some fun, be creative and see what works best for you and your partner.